Imagine if you could go back and change the decisions you regret. What would that life look like? Would you be happier? That’s what Nora finds out in the Midnight Library by Matt Haig. This book resonated with me so much that I first read it in 2021 and more recently, decided to listen to the audiobook in December 2024.

Nora, full of regrets from a lifetime of letting people down, decides that she’s ready to die. With the loss of her cat, the only person in her life that loved her, Nora feels useless in this world, like she’s just taking up space and thinks maybe she’s better off dead. Her decision lands her in the Midnight Library, a kind of purgatory that lets her explore other lives she could have lived. It’s a chance for her to review what would have happened if she made different decisions along the way, and was able reverse some of her regrets and live out all her childhood dreams. With infinite possibilities and her childhood librarian as her guide, Nora jumps from life to life, hoping to find the “perfect life” that she wants to abandon her current life for and continue living.

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As I sat drinking my Martinelli’s apple cider and waiting for midnight, I checked Facebook and saw the outpouring of recaps of the year from friends and family. Some were very heartfelt while others were total eye-rolling clichés. But what did I have to add? I looked at the draft of my latest blog post written about 2015, and decided not to publish it.

The draft was melancholy attempt to summarize the year as one the worst so far, only second behind the ridiculousness of 2010. Working less than full-time haunted me daily and the fear of being a disappointment as a wife weighed heavily on me. Last January, I was ten months into my marriage and felt like I had let my partner down. But Joey and I got through it and turned it around. As mentioned in my earlier posts, we had lunch together on my extra day off and I started this blog.

It was Joey who pointed out that I was so focused on the negative events that occurred in 2015 that I forgot about the extraordinary ones.

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